First, let me clarify what I mean by silence, and a noisy world.
When I speak (okay, write) about silence, I’m speaking about inner silence, when that incessant internal dialogue (although, it’s often more like a monologue) finally stops, or lessens enough that we can be more fully present. That internal dialogue is also a part of what I call “noise.” The other aspect of the “noise,” is the never-ending incoming information and/or continuous communication that is so rampant today.
Whether it’s internal dialogue, or continually being conjoined with your cellphone, it all requires mental activity. Whether you’re reading, listening, viewing, or conversing (audibly or by text/email), it’s all mental activity that perpetuates our internal noise. When we add having internal dialogues with people that aren’t even there, because we’re thinking about them, it just continues to add to our inner noise.
Given how technology is completely changing our way of life, it’s actually not surprising. However, there are aspects to having that continual noise that is not so beneficial.
Here are 3 reasons why re-establishing more inner silence can benefit you:
1. Mental activity requires energy. I actually wrote about this in one of my earlier blog posts titled “The #1 Way We Lose Energy.” The more energy you use mentally, the less energy you have for other things.
2. Excessive mental activity stresses our body. Robert Sapolsky, who studied the stress response for 30 years, was quoted as having said, “For humans, we turn on the stress response for purely “psychological states,” thinking about things. And so we’re doing it for non-physiological reasons, and we’re doing it non-stop.” Therefore, not only does less mental activity reduce the inner noise, it also helps your body to relax. Relaxation is key to helping the body move out of the stress response and back to taking care of itself instead.
3. If our attention is elsewhere, we can’t be fully present and fully engaged in the moment.
How do you find silence in a noisy world?
Visit the “#1 Way We Lose Energy” post for suggestions. Additionally, consider purchasing a copy of the “Everyday Subtle Energetic Influences: And How to Transform Them” book, along with the just released, “Everyday Subtle Energetic Influences Companion Journal.” The companion journal was specifically designed to help you be more fully present and aware before, during, and after doing each of the exercises. Therefore, the writing prompts are exercise specific and will help you to more fully recognize what and/or how you are contributing to your inner noise, that is not only costing you energy, but stressing your body as well.
That’s why I created both the book and the companion journal, because I wanted to help people not only to increase their inner silence and decrease energetic discomforts, but to help them recognize how it’s happening, and how to transform it. This is truly a gift to give yourself.
I’ve actually heard some amazing stories from people who did the exercises in the book, but unfortunately, their story doesn’t make its way to Amazon for others to read.
I sincerely hope you’ll purchase both the book and journal, and actively do the exercises that have the potential to help anyone tremendously. And if you do have transformative experiences, please take a few moments to tell me your story using the Contact Form on this site.
Sincerely wishing you greater inner silence and peace.
Adult Coloring Book - Affirmations & More
Adult Coloring Book for Positive Change - Affirmations & More is intended to encourage you to engage your greatest innate resource – your mind, while also allowing you to flex your creativity with color, and more. When changes can occur in the mind, everything else in your life naturally and effortlessly reflects this. It has been purposely formatted so you can also cut out what you’ve colored and frame the image to add to your personal spaces as reminders, while providing you with an activity that will not only help you to de-stress, but also help you to create a more affirmative focus for your life.
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As an adult, do you like to color? I've heard it said that coloring is the new yoga for some people, because they find it that enjoyable and relaxing. As an adult, do you like coloring? What do you like to color with (e.g. color pencils, markers, water color, etc.)? Do you find it relaxing? Tell us in the comments.
The title of this blog post is actually a direct quote from lesson 52 of "A Course in Miracles," and it's something I touch upon in the "Everyday Subtle Energetic Influences" book.
In the book, I share a story of an experience I had when I was in my early or mid 20's that really brought that quote into full awareness for me.
In that experience, I was having a heated argument with my mom. Although I recall being very angry with her at the time, I don't recall what the argument was about. But, I acted very teen like and abruptly walked off fuming, as I made my way to my bedroom.
As I was walking down a split staircase that lead to my bedroom, I internally asked myself, "Why am I so angry?" The answer to that question came quickly, as I realized that I was angry with my mom because she was not acting or saying what "I" wanted her to act or say. Immediately following this, I thought, "Well, who am I to tell someone else what they should or should not be or do? I wouldn't want someone else doing that to me." This realization blossomed into an immediate sense of forgiveness towards my mom and especially myself, as I realized that "I" created the anger because she did not fulfill MY expectations. I did it to myself. And boy was I angry at the moment of our argument.
All this occurred while I was still walking down the stairs to go to my bedroom. By the time I reached my bedroom, I had forgiven her, and myself for creating the anger, and was left with a deep feeling of love for her and myself.
Lesson 52 in a Course in Miracles tries to help us to recognize that we often create our own versions of reality that are based on our expectations. So, in essence we really are "upset because we see what is not there." After all, it's not there. We put it there, as my story demonstrates.
Ironically, this was one of the reasons I created the "Appreciating Me Journal." It was an exercise that I had done myself initially, without any prompt, in 2005. Because, on the flip side of that is when others to that to us. When we don't fulfill their expectations. Often, this can be very much felt, if not verbally heard. But, this is just one aspect of how often the world around us tries to tell us who we are, what we are, and whether we are worthy. And given the often hostile comments and opinions of others on the internet today, the journal can truly help you to be more fully centered in recognizing your self-worth, that is not subject to what others have said/written or are creating.
I sincerely hope you'll consider what I wrote about in your own life. How often have you done this? How often have you felt or held anger because, in reality, they did not meet your expectations?
I hope you'll purchase a copy of the "Everyday Subtle Energetic Influences" book, and enter to win the "Appreciating Me Journal" and the "My Appreciating me Notebook," so you can do all the exercises to help yourself feel more calm, quiet, and centered in your self-worth.
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